When you plan a date, plan to participate in interests and activities that you enjoy. Invite someone into your life. Be willing to let the people you date experience you, in the places in which you are the most comfortable doing the things that you most love to do.

Dates are a time to create opportunities to do the things you most enjoy. On dates, listen carefully to your inner voice(s) and to the person you are with. Experience the other person and who he or she is in their heart and soul.

If you enjoy good food, explore interesting restaurants and out-of-the-way eateries that ignite your enjoyment and share them with new people.

If you are moved by things of beauty, make a list of beautiful places and interesting buildings in your area to visit on a date. If you want to attract passion you must be passionate!

If you are a patron of the arts frequent your local art galleries, community theatres and musician hang-outs. Most communities have art festivals, art walks, craft shows; small galleries have "meet the artist nights” with great munchies and they are usually free; high schools and colleges often have musical and theatrical productions that rival the pros.

If you love to walk or hike, take some time and mark out some city walks to take just as if you were a tourist getting to know your city. Or grab a book on local hiking trails and keep it handy.

You get the idea!

Remember: Dating is the time that you are checking out the one you are dating. You are observing, listening, and getting a sense of who he or she is. Not visa versa!!

Be actively engaged in the life that you love, and you will more readily attract the love of your life!

Remember, only YOU can make it happen!

Copyright Dr. Jackie Black 1999-2005

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