Grooming is an imperative step when it comes to dating; especially if you find yourself wanting a second date.

Some might take it for granted, some may obsess about it and others may give it nay a thought. Those, however, that are on the receiving end will probably thank you if you do.

Cleanliness, some say is next to Godliness, while others say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Either way, paying attention to your grooming may be the deal breaker when it comes to getting that second date. When getting ready for the first date and that, oh so important first impression, give some thought to your grooming. If you are entertaining even the possibility of a second date, slow down and pay attention. Most of us appreciate it when someone obviously takes a little time making themselves look nice "for us” and cares enough about themselves to have good grooming habits.

Personally, I'm big on nice teeth and well-groomed hands. Others have their own little quirks about what constitutes good grooming and what turns them on.

If you haven't gone out on a date in awhile or if you've been in a relationship and let yourself go just a bit, pay attention; close attention. The easiest way, I think, to address this particular issue is to simply travel from head to toe, or vice versa and take note. Keep in mind that if you are the type that might possibly find yourself unclothed at any time during your date, you might just want to pay particular attention to the finest of details.

Here are some tips…some obvious, some not so obvious:

1. Take a shower/bath. 2. Wash your hair. 3. Clean and clip your fingernails and toenails (remember your cuticles). 4. Use a washcloth or cotton swap and clean out those ears. 5. Use deodorant. 6. Use body lotion, hand cream and foot cream. 7. Brush your teeth, tongue (yes, your tongue) and use mouthwash. 8. Press your clothes, if they need it. 9. Polish or clean your shoes.

If you're a guy, you might consider:

1. Trimming your nose and ear hairs (this might be the time to invest in a trimmer). 2. Making sure your socks are clean and match.

If you're a gal perhaps:

1. Give yourself (or get) a manicure and pedicure. Make sure your nails are tidy. 2. Shave your legs, armpits and/or any other areas that might need attending. 3. Pluck your eyebrows. 4. Don't overdo the makeup.

Might I also suggest that both men and women give their car a good cleaning, inside and out?

Don't overdo the fragrance, be it cologne or perfume (some people are allergic or sensitive to it.

Clean up your house if you think you might be inviting your date inside (even if there's only a slim chance). Set the mood ahead of time if you think you might get lucky; candles, beverages, clean towels, clean toilet (I'm tellin' ya), condoms etc. It's always better to be prepared for the unexpected than to find yourself unprepared at all!

If you are unsure what might make a difference, ask a friend or family member. If you think you might be interested in a second go-around or you're in the market for a long term relationship, you can't be too careful or attentive when it comes to the area of grooming.

Unfortunately when it comes to this, most people (even those outspoken ones) will not tell you if your breath stinks or if you have body odor. They won't mention that they think your dirty car is atrocious, nor will they suggest that you wash under your fingernails. They will, however, most likely notice all of the above, and when you suggest "let's do this again sometime”, they will kindly shake their head and say, "no, thanks”. You won't know why and may be left perplexed.

Avoid this scenario and make yourself and your surroundings presentable. What's that old saying? You only get one chance to make a first impression. Make it one that works for you.